"BUDDY"
Current mood:Expressive
Category: Writing and Poetry
"A Buddy is an equal beneficial arrangement" -"Buddy", Musiq Soulchild
If you were anything like me when you heard Musiq Soulchild's single "Buddy", you got caught up in the reminiscent beat and the clever content of the song. However, while the concept of the song is catchy in reality it's ridiculous! Now anybody who knows me is aware that I'm in love with Musiq Soulchild despite what is said about him (lol). However, I must say I don't agree with the "Buddy" arrangement and dare I say it: it's a complete fallacy.
There are plenty of people that believe that the "Buddy" arrangement is possible and for that matter, a preferred situation. Some have let themselves think that it is a great way to have the benefits but not the responsibility of a relationship. Some are under the impression that a "Buddy" arrangement is JUST going to be that, an arrangement, and there will be no emotional feelings involved and everything is going to roll smoothly. NO! That is not the case. How can it not become emotional when SEX IS EMOTIONAL! When sex is committed a connection is formed whether you want it or not. You have given an irretrievable piece of yourself to someone. The whole intension of sex was meant for pleasure and having a emotional connection WITHIN A MARRIAGE. Yes some marriages have problems that evolve from sex, but that usually happens when sex is misunderstood and/or misused. Outside a marriage, sex tends to start problems that usually won't happen in a marriage when the intent is in tact.
Movies, music, TV and maybe even friends have taught us how to kiss or have sex and etc. But who taught us "why"?
Someone once advised me to: Maintain the "Why" factor in everything I do and be completely honest with myself. I would like to pass this advice. "Why" does this person deserve something so special, like my kisses or "Why" does this person deserve to have a good person like me? "Why" would one want a "Buddy"? (Because in reality, they are afraid to commit or they want to have their cake and ......). Sometimes we just give ourselves away (in different forms) and don't make people earn us. Maintaining the "Why" factor and being honest with yourself can help in making better decisions.
No one deserves to have "Buddy" because we deserve better. If you put yourself in that kind of situation, you may end up getting hurt when your feelings get involved. Anyone who can live in that kind of situation most likely has deeper issues that need to be addressed. So please don't sell yourself short of what your worth.
